Feeling Brain Says “Go!” Thinking Brain Says “Stop!”

GPBP_13SmallWhen I was a kid growing up in Arlington, Massachusetts, I loved hearing the music blaring from the ice cream truck coming to our neighborhood on a hot summer day. Our ice cream man was a skinny, wrinkled, old man named Joe who was a bit crabby with us kids. Nevertheless, when we heard the music, we came running with our coins in hand. The treats were too tempting!

512px-Ice_cream_coneNow imagine yourself as a kid running to get an ice cream from Joe’s truck across the street. Your feeling brain wants the pleasure and calories of the ice cream and it drives you towards the truck. But because you have a pre-frontal cortex or thinking brain and you understand the dangers that moving cars represent, you stop at the curb and look before crossing.

That’s a good thing because there’s a big semi-truck rumbling your way and you wisely decide to wait for it to pass before crossing the street to get your ice cream. When it passes and everything is safe, you sprint across and get in line. Now both your brains are happy!

The Addict Doesn’t Stop to Look

GPBP_07SmallBut what about the person who’s developed an addiction? The addict’s thinking brain has been hijacked by his feeling brain. The addict is both compulsive and impulsive. He is compelled to get what his brain—his feeling or limbic brain—feels is necessary for survival. The addict’s thinking brain has been short-circuited and consequently weakened. (UPDATE: New brain studies actually correlate porn use with brain shrinkage!)  As a result, the addict doesn’t have the braking system to stop at the curb and look for the truck or even wait for it to pass if he sees it.

Sooner or later, as the addiction grows in intensity, the addict gets hurt by the consequences of his addiction–in essence mowed down by the oncoming semi-truck.

 Unable to Stop

Regretful young manIn fact, that is a hallmark of addiction and part of the definition: being unable to stop doing the addictive behavior despite negative consequences. When you understand how powerful addictions can be you can begin to understand why addicts lie, cheat, steal and hurt others to get what their brains are convinced they need for their very survival.

People who get hooked on pornography sooner or later get hit by the truck. We hear about them all the time in the news. Sadly, people with sex addictions often make unwise, risky and just plain foolish decisions. What were they thinking???

Well, they just weren’t.

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Kristen Jenson
Kristen A. Jenson is the founder of Protect Young Minds and author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids. Kristen enjoys speaking, writing and anything else that will help empower kids to reject pornography. Kristen earned a bachelor’s degree in English Literature, and a master’s degree in Organizational Communication. Kristen currently lives with her husband in Washington State, where she enjoys growing a vegetable garden, watching Masterpiece Theater, and taking long walks with friends who tolerate her incessant talking about you know what. Above all else, her husband and three children are her greatest treasures.