A mother who is a follower of this blog sent me this today and I wanted to share it with you. It’s so important that parents find out what is really going on in their children’s world.

Dear Kristen,

I guess I always thought of pornography as an evil that sought to entrap boys and men. Until recently, I had no idea how many girls are turning to porn. One young woman, age 22, recently told me that she has seen a great change between the girls her age and the girls in high school today, the same age as her younger sister. While she did not know girls who viewed porn during high school, she was aware that many of her sister’s friends had not only seen porn, but were surprisingly open about discussing it with friends. Recently, I read that over a quarter of those who struggle with sexual addiction are female.

With this in mind, I decided that I needed to talk with my 11 year-old daughter about the dangers of pornography. Fortunately, I had a draft copy of the book Good Pictures Bad Pictures to guide our discussion. (Update: The book is now available as a resource for all parents!) This book helped me to clearly define pornography so my daughter would understand what it is. Then, the book helped my daughter to see how looking at a picture of something could be addictive.

mom talking with daughter in parkBy the end of our discussion, my daughter began to understand that pornography was as dangerous (maybe more dangerous) that taking drugs and drinking alcohol. My daughter also knew how to identify pornography and what she needed to do to protect herself from addiction if she were to ever encounter pornography.

I was amazed at the tremendous sense of peace I felt after having this talk with my daughter. I felt as if I had empowered her with a new type of self-defense!

Kristen Jenson
Kristen A. Jenson is the founder of Protect Young Minds and author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids. Kristen enjoys speaking, writing and anything else that will help empower kids to reject pornography. Kristen earned a bachelor’s degree in English Literature, and a master’s degree in Organizational Communication. Kristen currently lives with her husband in Washington State, where she enjoys growing a vegetable garden, watching Masterpiece Theater, and taking long walks with friends who tolerate her incessant talking about you know what. Above all else, her husband and three children are her greatest treasures.